Be at Peace with Your Choices

Here’s an interesting statement : “If it is meant to be, the facts don’t matter.” I first heard this when Inna Segal said it and I nearly choked on my chips. It sat uncomfortably. “No, no”, I thought, “I work hard. I keep up with some of the trends. I can be cutting edge, blah, blah, blah… the facts DO matter.” Do you remember “If it is to be, it is up to me”? From classroom study halls to adult workshops, it was the soft version of the work hard, play hard ethic often quoted before more people started to accept that there is a mysterious, divine component to absolutely everything.

So, have you made peace with your choices? What you embody, you reflect out into the world. Are you where you want to be? Will it do for now but change is coming? Are you content with what you have or do you need more, more, more? Or do you simply WANT more and more? Why? Can you manifest it? What have you embodied to get you to where you think and feel you are, and to where you want to go next? What is the price you are prepared to pay? Have you got yourself a 1 year, a 5 year, and a 10 year plan? Does it really matter? Life happens despite our plans. It’s difficult to be so flexible that you cover all the bases all the time. So, what to do?

In my experience, in the coaching industry, what I have observed is that there are 2 main types. The first is the group who valiantly strives to move from head to heart. They’ve operated in the very masculine energy of graded exams and results. In time they’ve realised that holding a head full of education isn’t the be all and end all. It’s nice from an acquiring skills perspective but what do they do when their clients are struggling? In my day, it was called “referring them on”. None of this sitting down with them in heart space to find and potentially clear their blocks and challenges. The second group moves, equally valiantly, through the world without freaking out their own heart, a very feminine energy. They feel other people’s energy long before anything else. They know what’s coming. And they allow it to happen. It feels haphazard and incredibly disorganised – just like life. Neither group makes it sound like a joy to strive for working from your heart!

And then one day, you wake up to yourself. You either get comfortable with your life or you change it. Some, like me, a former poster child of what not to do, radically change everything and then spend years dealing with the fall out. Others change incrementally. Good for them!

So, by feeling the feels and making copious lists (integrating the masculine and feminine energies) you work out what is important to you. No one else can tell you what that is. There are guidelines and intuition, certainly, but the decision is yours and yours alone. You either choose it or not. That is the embodiment of the light and the shadow aspects of this earthly experience. So, find your peace. If the time is right, the facts don’t matter.