We have been called to help others because we want to make a difference. What better way is there than #PureCoaching – the provision of non-judgemental listening, questioning and resources that guide people, partners, teams and organizations to better understand who they are so they can make aligned decisions from their truth.
I’ve been confused for a while about my infinite drive and passion for helping others live more consciously. I can now see that, in the beginning, a part of my drive was actually avoidance (saving the planet was way more sparkly than sorting out my own shit!).
Even though I’m still shoveling my own dross, I have a broader perspective. I see that we are all part of the greater whole. The dance between polarities of dark and light, good and evil, masculine and feminine, is what makes living rich, beautiful and bountiful. After all is said and done, the same archetypal stories have been playing out since time immemorial and those patterns will continue playing out WAY after my physical body is gone.
What is – just IS.
I don’t need to fix anyone or anything – no one and no thing is broken.
My most important job is to enjoy my time here by loving my family, taking care of my body, connecting with people I love and admire and by following my heart as well as I am able.
This has led me to propose a new code for Coaches. I’m curious to know if this resonates with you or not and if there is anything you’d like to add or change.
Here it is…
The Coach’s Code
- Do not judge. We are all part of the same energy source – no matter how we are currently presenting. See what is as what IS.
- Do not blindly follow. FEEL what’s True for YOU and act from your truth.
- Do not rescue. Respect people’s sovereignty, free will and personal sovereignty. Only help when asked.
- Do not take yourself so damn seriously. Have fun and enjoy every minute of being alive. The good times and the shitty times all hold immense value in our perspective and evolution.
When we live by this code ourselves, we are ready to guide others to do the same.
When our collective comes together in this loving vibration, we will move mountains.
Xox
B
Benay Dyor
Life's a Journey. I don't always get it right but I'm having FUN! I love helping coach changemakers shine their Light, even more, in the world. I do this through a range of enjoyable projects including Ready-Made Coaching Tools, The Coach Guardian, My Coach Office, and my One-to-one, 4-week, Re-Ignite Program (for tenured Changemakers in Transition).
Benay Dyor
Life's a Journey. I don't always get it right but I'm having FUN! I love helping coach changemakers shine their Light, even more, in the world. I do this through a range of enjoyable projects including Ready-Made Coaching Tools, The Coach Guardian, My Coach Office, and my One-to-one, 4-week, Re-Ignite Program (for tenured Changemakers in Transition).
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I quite like that, Benay! And I really get the notion of avoidance in the initial drive to coach …
I did tend to read the Code points more as underlying principles. Say, The Coach’s Own Code, which a Coach[ing] Code would overlay. I think they would be great used like that, to guide adoption of any particular style’s Code, and to serve as a standard that clients could rely on from coach to coach.
Beautifully put Benay
Well written! Thank you! Benay!
Thank you Heidi, Scott and Etienne. I shared this article in my Facebook Group and seems like these are really resonating with coaches especially #4 ! 😉
xox – B