I can’t help but notice some people are really struggling with side effects from world events while others are doing rather well. It’s relentlessly ongoing. I’m saddened when reading that there are good, capable people beginning to doubt their ability to return to being out in public after whatever number lockdown they’ve been subjected to endure. It’s a pain, literally. It started me thinking what, exactly, is this pain?
But first, I want to introduce to you a delightful woman I met whilst attending the same personal growth webinars, Teresa McGannon. Check out her Facebook page: Life with Tee. On one of our study pages, Tee set out her thoughts on a cycle of pain. There’s also a nod to the work of Donald Epstein and his book “The 12 Stages of Healing” as well as Tee’s years of training and working as a chiropractor and a yoga instructor too.
With her permission, I have created a précis of her Cycles of Pain post.
Pain… stuffed deep down over lifetimes and ignored through many generations becomes numbness. (We’re talking unconscious, patterned pain that can be mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, ancestral, tribal, or any combination of these.)
This numbness – becomes coldness – becomes rigidity – becomes control – becomes fear – becomes anxiety – and when internalised, becomes shame. The shame creates masks we hide behind or function from – these lead to further escapes from the Self. (The Japanese believe we have 3 faces/masks – the one we show to the world, the one we show to friends and family, and the one we show only to ourselves.) In current times it’s easy to choose to escape. Constant escape – becomes tiring – becomes exhaustion – becomes survival – becomes heavy – becomes an explosion that blows up everything.
Once the explosion settles it creates space.
Space creates time – creates peace – allowing for creativity – allowing for openness – creates opportunities – creates change – allowing breathing space – creates freedom – creates new growth – creates new relationships – brings about challenges – brings …pain.
And there you have it. What to do with the pain now that you are aware? You may not be able to name it but you can most certainly recognise the cycle. Last cycle you didn’t feel much, if anything at all. This time you might jump straight to that part of the cycle that is fear because sometimes, recognition is a bitch. Equally, it’s not going to instantly disappear just because you are aware. Just as a broken bone is not going to spontaneously mend just because you notice it. There is work to be done. Real, functional, tangible internal work. Work you can focus on, doing something positive for yourself rather than getting caught up in struggles you can barely comprehend let alone navigate in the external world.
So, what can you look forward to when you deal with pain with positive, actionable, and determined awareness? This time the pain is seen and you choose to acknowledge it – allowing for more sensitivity- allowing new opportunities to face and meet it. In meeting the pain in a different way, the numbness, coldness rigidity, etc has lessened and you can navigate a more constructive path through it. Light can now shine upon the once dark aspects of one’s Self. The impact of what others are experiencing is lessened while your empathy and sense of Self strengthens
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