My oldest, my son, was my biggest challenge up to the point when I learned his design. In the Human Design System, he is a manifestor. Needing no one else, independent, and proactive type that does not take no for an answer.

Manifestors are also rare, they take up about 10% of the population, which makes his behaviour stand out even more. He also has a dominant knowing circuit and strong intuition, unshakable confidence, and emotional authority that experiences strong emotional waves. He possesses a great logic resonance, and he will logically fight his way out of every argument. However, despite all this, he carries a strong emotional intelligence, and he is a very sensitive soul.

Manifestors have this strong presence, their aura is closed and repelling. Just by being there, their energy is dominant.
Before I knew all of this, I was fighting him and his energy all the time. The more I fought the more he resisted. I tried to force authority on him, make him listen, and respect me as a parent. However, kids are way better at picking up frequencies than words, and my frequency was of someone who is not in control, who is not sure. I wasn’t sure because I knew I wasn’t doing it right, but I didn’t know differently. And this little manifestor was taking every advantage of my insecurity.

The strategy every manifestor in an adult age needs to follow is to inform the people around them about their actions. Manifestors have this strong initiating power to go and do things without the need to tell anyone what they will be doing.

Learning his design was truly an eye-opening moment for me. As if everything fell into place at once, I saw his truth in that chart. The battles he was fighting with me were not about defying me, it was the fight for the survival of his integrity, his inner truth. I understood where he was coming from.

You see, demanding of him to be less powerful and dominant, preventing him from doing what he wants to test his limits, and asking him to shrink to better fit our perception of appropriate behaviours would rob him of his superpowers. In this scenario, he would learn to play small, and he would go through his life shrinking his big energy to fit in and people-please.

I am so grateful to have found this incredible system before the damage was done and before his teenage years. All manifestors want in life is to be at peace, with themselves and with everyone around them. Sure, he still pushes my buttons here and there, but I know now how to manage both of our energies. I know now how to stand my ground and be a strong and confident guide to him. As a manifestor, he knows where he is going, and he needs us as parents to jump on his train and support him. And as with everything, this too is a work in progress, but we operate on a different level now, I know when to push through and when to let go. At the end of the day, we always find our way to the place of peace.